Wedding Expense Etiquette - Who Pays for What? By Hilary Basile
First and foremost, there are no rules governing who pays for wedding expenses. Traditionally, the bride’s family covers the cost of most wedding expenses; however, this obligation depends on the individual situation. With more couples getting married later in life, they are often able to cover some or all of the wedding expenses. Ideally, this subject should be discussed with both families to determine a solution that works for all parties involved.
Following is a list of wedding expenses traditionally covered by the bride, the groom, their families and their attendants:
The Bride
Wedding ring for the groom
Wedding gift for the groom
Bridal Attendant gifts
Stationery, such as Thank You notes
Medical exam and blood test
Accommodations for out-of-town attendants
The Groom
Engagement and Wedding rings for the bride
Wedding gift for the bride
Best Man and Usher gifts
Groom's wedding attire
Bride's bouquet and corsage
Mothers' corsages
Boutonnieres for attendants and fathers
Gloves, ties and ascots for attendants
Medical exam and blood test
Marriage license
Clergyman's fee
Limousine service
Honeymoon expenses
The Bride's Family
Engagement party (optional)
Wedding breakfast
The cost of the ceremony including the church fee, reception site, photographer, food, beverages, entertainment, rental items, floral items and the wedding cake
Canopy, carpet kneeling bench, candelabras, etc.
Bride's wedding gown, headpiece and accessories
Wedding gift for the couple
Wedding invitations, announcements and mailing costs
Wedding programs
Bridesmaid bouquets
Grandmother corsages
Transportation for bridal party from bride's home to the site of ceremony
Bridesmaids' luncheon
Photography (groom's parents may pay for the pictures they would like)
Personal wedding attire
The Groom's Family
Rehearsal dinner party
Groom’s cake
Personal wedding attire
Travel and accommodations for groom's family
Wedding gift for the bride and groom
Any general expenses they may wish to contribute
The Wedding Party, Ushers & Other Attendants
Formal wear for themselves
Personal travel expenses
Wedding gift for bride and groom
Showers given by maid of honor or bridesmaids
Bachelor party given by best man or ushers
The Bride and Groom
Gifts of appreciation for parents or others who helped with the wedding
Expenses of items desired which have exceeded original budget allocations
To reiterate, there are no rules governing who pays for wedding expenses. This listing is to serve as an example of who traditionally pays for wedding expenses.